In the following video, Dr Coyne and Ms Robertson talk about how family communication can influence family functioning particularly during times of stress:
In this next video, Craig talks about how to tell a child and the importance of being together as a family.
When cancer becomes advanced and life even more uncertain, many families find new ways to make the most of every minute. Here is what some people have done to maximise their time with their family:
- Accept any offers of help from family and friends. It not only allows them to feel they are contributing, it frees up your time and energy for your kids.
- Save your energy for what matters most to you. If you want, let the housework slide and spend more time with your loved one or friend and the kids.
- Sift through old photos and make a scrapbook of your lives together, as a way to establish memories.
- Help your friend or relative make an audiotape or transcript for each of the children involved. You could help make tapes or transcripts for special occasions like 21st birthdays or weddings.
Who can help when communication breaks down at home?
There are several places to look for professional help. Here are some ideas:
- Your specialist or GP will be able to organise a referral to an appropriate health professional. Ask for help.
- Nurses: may be the most constant contact you have and are a source of valuable information and support. Good sources of help include the Cancer Nurse Coordinator or the Social Worker.
- The oncology Social Work department at the hospital where you take your relative or friend for treatment. The social workers talk to patients every day about communication issues and have a wealth of knowledge. They can also help you work out together the best type of professional help for your family’s needs.
- Psychologist – There are often psychologists who support people in an oncology setting. Ask to see one.
- Cancer organisations such as the Cancer Council have programs that may help. See Resources